• Stalking

    Stalking is not a sign of love or devotion, it is a dangerous behavior that is about exerting power and control. It is also a very serious violation of university policy and the law. A situation that starts out as bothersome and annoying can quickly escalate into a something more dangerous. People who stalk are not trying to get close to you, they are taking away your choice and forcing themselves into your life. If you think you are being stalked, there are many resources available to you.

    What is Stalking?

    Stalking is a pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, violence, or any other conduct directed at you that makes you feel afraid or in danger.  You can be stalked by someone you know, someone you have dated, or a stranger.  Stalking is serious, and can escalate over time, and sometimes become violent.

  • Stalking Can Include

    • Repeated, unwanted, intrusive, and/or frightening communications by phone, text, mail, and/or email
    • Repeatedly leaving or sending unwanted items, presents, or flowers
    • Following or spying on you at places such as home, school, work, or on the street
    • Showing up unwanted at your home, school, or job
    • Threatening you or someone close to you
    • Vandalizing or threatening to vandalize your property
    • Cyberstalking—unwanted posting, presence, or monitoring of your presence on the Internet
    • Using technology like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS) to track where you go
    • Obtaining personal information by accessing public records, using Internet search services, hiring private investigators, or going through your garbage

    Statistics

    According to The National Center for Victims of Crime, stalking effects as many as 6.6 million people in the United States each year, with 18 to 24-year-olds representing the largest proportion of stalking victims.

    • 4 out of 5 stalkers are known to the victim: partners, ex-partners, classmates, acquaintances, co-workers, etc., only about 20% are strangers .
    • 11% of stalking victims have been stalked for 5 years or more.
    • 1 in 4 report being stalked through the use of some form of technology (such as email or instant messaging).
    • 10% report being monitored with global positioning systems (GPS), and 8% report being monitored through video or digital cameras or listening devices.
    • Two-thirds of stalkers pursue their victims at least once per week using more than one method. Many pursue their victims daily.
    • 1 out of 5 stalking cases involves weapons used to harm or threaten victims in 1 out of 5 cases.
    • 1 in 7 people who are stalked report that they moved as a result of the stalking.
    • Approximately 60% of stalking incidents do not get reported to the police (if you are afraid to report stalking behaviors to the police, consult with a counselor or trusted advisor).
    • Almost one-third of stalkers have stalked before.
    • Intimate partner stalkers frequently approach their targets, and their behaviors tend to escalate quickly.

    Sources

    Resources

  • The Emotional Impact of Stalking

    If you are dealing with stalking behaviors, you are not alone. Stalking is harmful and intrusive, and can be very dangerous. And often the behaviors escalate over time. Taking proactive steps to cope with your stalking is a brave step toward combating violence in our community.

    Being stalked can be extremely frightening, and the emotional effects of being stalked can affect your social, academic, and professional performance. It’s normal to feel a range of emotions, including fear, anxiety, and confusion. Reactions vary but may include changes in sleeping and eating patterns, nightmares, hypervigilance, anxiety, feelings of helplessness, fear for safety, depression, shock and disbelief, denial, guilt, anger, and self-blame.

    Remember

    The problem is with the person doing the stalking—not you. You are not to blame for the stalker’s behavior.

  • What to do if You Are Being Stalked

    Seek Safety

    • If you are in immediate danger, call 911. 
    • If you are not in immediate danger, call Campus Security at 212.229.7001 or a crisis hotline. The person you talk to can help you develop a safety plan, refer you to other services, and help you navigate getting an order of protection, if that is something you want to do.
    • Obtain medical attention for treatment of any injuries or prevention of infections. If the stalking involves sexual violence, visit the Sexual Violence site for time sensitive medical and legal information.
    • Acquaint yourself with 24-hour stores and other public, highly populated areas in your neighborhood.

    Seek Protection

    Keep a detailed record of all incidents. Documentation makes for a stronger case.

    • Keep evidence of stalking: emails, texts, voicemails, and items left for you.
    • Report the incident to the university and/or the police. If a police report is made you can request an order of protection. Learn more about Orders of Protection.
    • If you already have an Order of Protection, make copies and keep one with you at all times. Consider alerting Campus Security and local law enforcement. If you have a picture of your stalker, provide one. The New School’s security staff will not allow the abuser to enter New School buildings, even if you do not report the stalking to the police.
    • Keep your address confidential. Get a post office box and use it on all correspondence (including your checks). If you are being sent something via FedEx or another provider that does not deliver P.O. Boxes, change "P.O. Box" to "Apartment" when giving your address.
    • Set your phone to reject calls from anonymous or unknown callers (your service provider can help arrange this). Report telephone harassment and document harassing phone calls by contacting the Unlawful Call Center at 800.518.5507.
    • Develop a safety plan and a risk assessment for home, work, and school. Identify immediate strategies and actions to increase your safety. This may include varying your habits, such as taking different routes to class or to your meetings.

    Seek Support

    • If you feel safe doing so, make it clear to the stalker that you are not interested. You don’t need to be polite and make excuses, as stalkers often read this as an invitation. You have a right to say no. Keep a record of this communication.
    • Build a support system. Tell friends, family members, university staff, and others what is going on. Instruct them not to give out any information about you. You don’t have to go through this alone.
    • Talk to a counselor. Being stalked is emotionally draining and it can be useful to talk to someone who can help you deal with the impact.
    • Become familiar with the university policy, and where you can get help and report incidents of stalking. Talk to school administrators, your advisor, or academic department.
    • Decide in advance what to do if your stalker shows up at your dorm, meetings, or classes. Tell people around you who can help if this happens and always carry your cell phone with you and have someone to call if you feel unsafe.
    • If you are a victim of a crime in New York State, you can apply for victim compensation. You do not need to be a New York State resident or a U.S. citizen to be eligible for assistance from the Office of Victim Services (OVS).
    • Trust your instincts. Victims of stalking often feel pressured by friends or family to downplay the stalker’s behavior, but stalking poses a real threat of harm. Your safety is paramount.

  • Report Stalking

    Stalking behaviors are a serious violation of The New School Code of Conduct and are against the law in New York State. Anyone who commits a stalking behavior is subject to criminal prosecution. For a complete description of stalking offenses in New York State, please see NYS Penal Law Article 120.

  • Reporting to the University

    If you have experienced stalking behaviors, you are encouraged to report it to the university.

    You can make a report by email, in person, or by phone to any of the following university offices:

      Student Rights and Responsibilities

      72 Fifth Avenue, room 406
      Email: SRR@newschool.edu
      Phone: 212.229.5349
      Director – Gene Puno-DeLeon

      Title IX Coordinator

      72 Fifth Avenue, room 402
      Email: titleixcoordinator@newschool.edu
      Phone: 212.229.5900 x3655
      Assistant Vice President for Student Life – Jennifer Francone

      Campus Security

      68 Fifth Avenue
      Email: ilicetot@newschool.edu
      Phone: 212.229.7001 (Security - 24 hours)
      Director – Tom Iliceto

      Student Support and Crisis Management

      72 Fifth Avenue, room 404
      Email: studentsupport@newschool.edu
      Phone: 212.229.5900 x3189 or x3710
      Director – Maureen Sheridan

        Once a report is filed, a university official will provide you with the following information:

        • A clear explanation of the university’s investigative and hearing procedures
        • Information about where to access medical care
        • Information about your legal options
        • Information about where to access support services on and off campus

        Confidential Assistance

        You can seek professional, confidential assistance either on campus at Counseling Services located at 80 Fifth Avenue, 3rd floor (212.229.1671), or off campus at a local Crime Victims Program. This is especially helpful for stalking victims who have been isolated from friends and family.

        Reporting to the Police

        The decision to report to the police is complex. If you are not sure what to do, talk it through with a trusted friend, family member, or someone else who can advocate for you. If you choose to report the stalking to the police, you have the right to pursue criminal prosecution and/or civil litigation against a stalker. Reporting an incident immediately after it occurs can aid in the legal process.

        You have two options: reporting in person at the precinct where the stalking occurred or calling 911. Student Support and Crisis Management and Campus Security are available to provide support and advocacy if you decide to report the stalking to the police.

      • How to Help a Friend Who is Being Stalked

        • Listen. Avoid making judgments and giving advice.
        • Take the situation seriously. If you are concerned about your friend’s safety, tell him or her so. Offer to help contact Campus Security or the police.
        • Connect them with resources. Share the information on these webpages or suggest they call one of the resources.
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